As usual, I went to pick my lil' heroes from their daycare centre at 6pm yesterday. Since their principal was still around, I decided to go in and have a chat with her about the progress of my lil' heroes.
I took the opportunity to tell her that You Jin had decided to withdraw himself from the poem recital slot for this upcoming concert-cum-graduation day. She accepted the decision and she agreed with me that we should respect the You Jin's decision. Yup, he might just be a 6-year-old kid, but as adults, we need to understand him and respect his decision.
I smiled to myself when I read Johnny's comment in my last post:
"don't need to pressure him at this age. he doesn't need such pressure in life. parents have to be careful as performing in front of u in the home is totally a different environment when standing on stage. i'm a play director, so i know. if he can do it then let him do it. alternatively, get him to stand up in the public, say a playground. get him standing up on a chair as if it was a stage. let him read it loud and clear. if u feel malu that he's doing it so loudly, then u are the having a problem, not him. just encourage him and not a single sign of force be used. don't force yr dream on him."
Johnny, I totally agree with you. For your information, I have never force my lil' heroes to READ, WRITE, COLOUR and all those other related stuff. I believe that whatever things that they have practised in school is sufficient for now. After all, they are still little kids. One thing that I am amazed about my lil' heroes is that they have developed the love for books and colours on their own. I guess their teachers in school have done a fantastic job in inculcating those good habits. All that I have done was only to get my lil' heroes all sorts of books, and colouring materials and some encouragement. Force? Never :)
Since I am in the education field, I am familiar with the negative effects of forcing a task upon someone, especially little children. Just like adults, children are more receptive when they enjoy doing a task. So, since You Jin did not find any joy in poem reciting, we both agreed that he should back out.
I am definitely not like some other kiasu parents out there. Let children enjoy their childhood, and like what Johnny mentioned: never force our dream upon them.
I always believe that a child is the conductor of his own life. As parents, we are just among the musicians in his orchestra :)
p/s: Looking forward for their concert-cum-graduation day this Sunday. There will definitely be a post on that ;)