On the way home from daycare, You Jin rattled on and on about what happened in school and daycare today. Nothing extraordinary EXCEPT towards the end:
You Jin: Henry punched me on my mouth during teabreak.
Me: Why did he do that?
You Jin: I don't know. I was showing Bryan my shaky milk tooth, and suddenly Henry came over and punched me on my mouth.
Me: Did you tell your teacher?
You Jin: Yes.
Me: What did the teacher do?
You Jin: He scolded Henry and rotan him.
Me: Make sure that the teacher knows what is going on.
You Jin: My another tooth is shaky now.
Me: Which one? (inspects his teeth)
You Jin: The front one also.
Me: *muttered #&^%$ under my breath*
I was angry because THAT particular front tooth which is now shaky isn't the milk tooth, but a permanent one. Immediately, I called up the principal of the daycare and highlighted this incident to her.
As far as I know, this little brat named Henry has been causing lots of trouble to other kids at the daycare. In fact, that's the first name that I learnt from the daycare because Henry seems to be THE only person who causes trouble every other day. Henry did this, Henry did that...
Now, I'm in a dilemma. What should I do next? I'm at a crossroad with several choices in front of me:
i. teach my kid to forgive and forget and tell him that the bad guys will always end up getting punish.
ii. teach my kid to be firm and fight back especially if that brat bothers or tries to be funny with him again in future.
iii. teach my kid to just ignore and stay far away from that brat and explain to him that that little brat has a serious behaviorial problem.
The consequence of each choice:
Option i.: Yup, it's good to learn to forgive and forget, and pray that the baddies will be punished. This will only happen mostly in some fairy tale land. BUT in reality, sometimes the bad guys escape punishment and they live happily ever after.
Option ii.: Errr, I'm in favour of this option because sometimes, you need to be tough and show that they shouldn't mess with you. I know...many people will disagree with my point of view. I'm not teaching my kid to be a bully, but to stand up and fight back IF he is being bullied.
Option iii.: To ignore and stay away is just like running away from the problem. I'm not very sure if this is what I want to inculcate in my kid.
S.O.S.!!! I NEED ADVICE!!!